I've just deactivated my Facebook account because I've had enough of people chiming in to tell me I should stop 'worrying' so much about my weight and that 'being thin does not equal being happy.' Why do people do this?
When you're losing weight, no one says anything until about 20lbs in. Then they notice. 'Oh, you are looking great!' They say. 'What are you doing?'
If you continue to lose, they say, 'Don't go overboard now. You'll waste away to nothing.'
Once you enter your actual healthy weight range, a lot of the comments stop. You start to hear people making excuses for why they themselves don't have time to exercise, or why life is too short to deprive yourself of pleasures. People eyeball your lunch. If you're a vegan, like me, they make comments about rabbit food, offer you a rare steak, or say, 'I could never give up cheese!' As if you'd just asked them to! If you're still an omnivore, they talk about your tremendous discipline, in a disapproving tone. As if you would ever consider looking at their ham and mayo on white bread and saying to them, 'Man, that's got a lot of fat. Careful you don't get too FAT eating that!'
If you start to put on a bit of weight and mention that you want to lose it (which is where I am now--I have regained 7 lbs over the course of about 10 months), people pipe up to tell you that you look great, very healthy, not to worry, stop being so obsessed. Because 'thin does not equal happy.'
Whose business is it if I want to weigh 133 lbs for the rest of my life? Today I weighed 140. I haven't been out of the 130s since 2006. I don't like it. I like being in the 130s. I like my size 8 skirts to be loose around the waist. I like not having a muffin top. I like not having fat rolls. I like looking at myself in the mirror and seeing no bulges. And guess what. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have put on weight for 3 reasons: 1) I've been under stress with my driving lessons and test and I've been eating a lot of chocolate and junk, 2) convenience foods have slipped back into my diet, because there's some magical connection between the junk food calories going up directly leading to the fresh fruit and veg intake going down--chips look so much more appealing if you had a chocolate bar at break than if you had an apple. Don't ask me why, I don't know why, but it's true! and 3) my timetable has changed and I have 2 more late finishes per week, and when I get home late I am tired and sometimes opt not to work out or switch to a shorter, easier workout than I would normally have done. --Come to think of it, there's 4)Facebook. I've spent time on there in the afternoons sometimes instead of working out--and often while snacking on crap!
133 lbs is NOT too thin for my frame. Eating to keep me there is NOT unhealthy. Exercising 5 times a week is NOT obsessive. And I'm tired of defending my lifestyle. I'm sick of rising above stupid comments.
I am NOT going to slip back into horrible habits and get fat again, just so those who won't put forth the effort can feel better about being sedentary and eating terrible food. I can't help it if my choices seem to them like some sort of indictment.
But I'm just sick of defending myself, so I deactivated my Facebook. So stupid that I felt I had to do that. I've NEVER attacked anyone on Facebook for eating meat or being fat or never exercising. How dare they presume that it's okay to do the reverse. So sad.
(Of course I have supportive friends who don't do this to me. But there are so many people out there who never think before they engage their mouth. And words hurt.)